Monday, February 27, 2006
Why date a Christian?
A question was brought up last night at our "Best Sex Ever" session regarding dating non-Christians or even lukewarm Christians. What are your thoughts. First, is it ok for a Christian to just date a non-Christian? And second, does the person you are dating have to be a "real" Christian? In other words, is it enough for them to just go to church? Of course I have my ideas on this subject, but what do you all think? I will be answering this question at our next session, so your imput is much appreciated.
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I have my own questions, and i think without the answers i cant answer yours. Does a lukewarm Christian mean that they believe, but don't go to church? I consider myself a bi-monthly christian, which is terrible, and theres no excuse for it, but does that make me lukewarm?
Well, I personally believe that it is not ok to date especially a non-Christian and even a lukewarm Christian. The Bible clearly says, "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers" and I believe that includes dating. Saying that it gives you a good chance to witness to the person is not good, because who knows if you can change them? That's just my personal opinion.
In my opinion it is NOT ok for a Christian to date a non-Christian. No matter how good the person is or how much you want them to change, “ministry” dating does not work. In essence, if you are dating someone who is not a Christian, that is what you are doing. As with any other value in a relationship, it is important for them to line up or else there will be friction. It is important that you and the person you are dating are on the same page. If you are a “real” committed Christian, he or she must have given his or her life to Christ.
We should only date people that we could see ourselves marrying. Otherwise what is the point? If that is the case, can you see yourself marrying someone who is not a Chrisitan? I personally could not. I want someone with the same set of beliefs and values that I live by. I also know that someone who is truly committed to God and His teachings is going to be able to enter into a healthy realtionship. It is only with a Christian man that a Christian woman is able to submit to her husband, because then she knows that he will truly treat her as Christ treated His church. This is what the Bible tells us to do, and if we are in a relationship with someone who is not a Christian then he or she will not understand that, and it can lead to dire consequences. It is very hard to know that this person is fully committed and will treat you right if they do not love the Lord more than anything else.
Phew, that was long! Anyway, this is my opinon of what a relationship should be [says the single girl:)] and it is what I am looking for, take it as you like, Todd.
Oh P.S. that was from Kelli
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